Language Point 1
How do you know the difference between love and infatuation? (Para.1)
infatuation: n. [C; U] a state full of strong feelings of love 迷恋
It’s only an infatuation; she’ll get over it soon enough. 她这不过是一时的迷恋，很快就会过去的。
Language Point 2
This is often difficult to determine, for when it comes to judging the difference between love and infatuation, no set rules exist. (Para.1)
Meaning: It is often difficult to tell the difference, because when we talk about the difference between love and infatuation, there are no fixed rules to follow.
determine: v.
1) find out exactly 确定
We should first try to determine how much it is going to cost. 我们应首先弄清这要花多少钱。
2)make a decision 做出决定
He determined to give up smoking. 他决定戒烟。
She was determined to carry on with the work. 她决心把这项工作继续下去。
Language Point 3
…for when it comes to judging the difference between love and infatuation, no set rules exist. (Para.1)
come to: be about 涉及；谈到
When it comes to the history of the country, I know nothing. 说到这个国家的历史，我一无所知。
Language Point 4
…for when it comes to judging the difference between love and infatuation, no set rules exist. (Para.1)
judge: v.
1) give an opinion about 判断
It’s difficult to judge whether he told the truth. 很难判断他说的是否是真话。
2) decide (a case) 审判，审理
Who will judge the murder case? 谁将审理这桩谋杀案？
Language Point 5
…judging the difference between love and infatuation, no set rules exist. (Para.1)
exist: v. be real 存在
Their relationship existed for a long time. 他们之间的关系保持了很长一段时间。
Language Point 6
Romantic love is very much a part of the American way of life… (Para.1)
romantic: a.
1) showing strong feelings of love 浪漫的
It is a romantic film starring Audrey Hepburn. 这是一部由奥黛丽•赫本主演的浪漫影片。
2) not practical 不切实际的
She’s as romantic as a child of sixteen. 她像16岁的孩子一样喜欢幻想。
Language Point 7
…and many expect that some day “it” is going to hit them and they will know they are in love. (Para.1)
expect: v.
1) have a strong wish for 期望
We’re expecting a visit from an old friend. 我们正期待着一位老朋友的来访。
2) think that sth. is to happen; regard as likely 预计，预料
The film wasn’t as interesting as I had expected. 这部影片不像我预料的那么有趣。
Language Point 8
…that some day “it” is going to hit them and they will know they are in love. (Para.1)
hit: v.
1) move towards and reach 击中
Something hit the back of his head. 有东西打中了他的后脑。
2) touch sth. with a lot of force 打；击
He hit the ball with his hand. 他用手击球。
I saw the car hit the old man. 我看到汽车撞了那位老人。
Language Point 9
…they will know they are in love. (Para.1)
be in love: love sb. 恋爱
He says he is in love with her and they are going to get married. 他说他们正在热恋，并且打算结婚了。
Language Point 10
True love is more likely to include a process of “growing” in love rather than “falling” in love. (Para.2)
Meaning: True love is more likely to involve a gradual process of loving each other instead of loving each other the first time you meet.
rather than: instead of 胜于；与其……不如……
Many of them would rather go to the cinema than go to the party. 他们中许多人宁可去看电影，也不愿参加晚会。
He asked for some books rather than money. 他要了一些书，而不是钱。
Language Point 11
This “falling” is often infatuation, and the splendid feeling of “falling” in love often blinds a person to the fact that the loved one isn’t perfect. (Para.2)
Meaning: Loving each other the first time you meet is often infatuation, and such a wonderful feeling often makes you unable to see the weaknesses of the person you love.
splendid: a.
1) very good, fine 极好的
The show they gave was splendid. 他们的表演非常精彩。
2) very beautiful in design 壮丽的；豪华的
At the top of the mountain you may enjoy a splendid sunset. 在山顶你能欣赏到日落的壮美景象。
Language Point 12
…and the splendid feeling of “falling” in love often blinds a person to the fact that the loved one isn’t perfect. (Para.2)
blind: vt. make unable to see or notice 使看不见
Wishes for money blinded him to the danger. 对钱财的渴望让他无视危险。
a.
1)unable to see or notice 看不见的
He has been blind from birth. 他天生双目失明。
2) without thought or reason 盲目的
Love is sometimes blind. 爱有时是盲目的。
He made a blind guess. 他乱猜一通。
Language Point 13
We want to think of the loved one as “perfect”, like some sort of god. (Para.2)
god: n. [C;U] 神
God helps those who help themselves. 自助者天助。
sort of: in some way; rather 有点
I was feeling sort of ill. 我感觉有点不舒服。
It’s sort of long and thin, a bit like a pencil. 那个东西好像是细长的，有点儿像铅笔。
Language Point 14
Infatuation, then, is a sudden, emotional sense that one has discovered the “perfect” love. (Para.2)
Meaning: Infatuation, then, is a sudden strong feeling that one thinks of the loved one as a faultless person.
emotion: n. [C; U] strong feelings 强烈的感情
She described what had happened in a voice full of emotion. 她用充满感情的语调叙述了所发生的一切。
emotional: a. of or related to emotion 感情上的；感情强烈的
We were all moved by her emotional speech. 我们都被她充满感情的演讲打动了。
Language Point 15
On the other hand, true love realizes the problems the other person has and accepts those problems. (Para.2)
on the other hand: as a different view 另一方面
On the one hand, she loves him; on the other hand, she is afraid that they won’t be happy if they get married. 一方面她很爱他，另一方面她又担心他们结婚后会不幸福。
Language Point 16
…true love realizes the problems the other person has and accepts those problems. (Para.2)
accept: v. take or receive 接受
He accepted her invitation after she apologized. 在她道歉后，他接受了她的邀请。
Language Point 17
Love leads a person to a feeling of security and trust in the loved one. (Para. 3)
Meaning: Love makes you feel safe and gives you a sure feeling that the one you love is honest and good.
lead: v.
1)show the way 引导
She led me into the secret room. 她领我进入密室。
All roads lead to Rome. 条条大路通罗马。
2)be in charge of 带领，领导
He led the team to win the match. 他带领队伍赢了这场比赛。
Has he the abilities to lead? 他具有领导的才能吗？
lead to: bring about; cause 导致
The delay of using medicine led to her serious illness. 没有及时用药导致她的病情加重。
Language Point 18
…a feeling of security and trust in the loved one. (Para. 3)
security: n. [U]
1)the state of being safe 安全
For security reasons your suitcase should be searched. 出于安全考虑，我们必须搜查一下你的手提箱。
Murder is one of the dangers to world security. 暗杀是威胁世界安全的危险之一。
We need the security of a loving family. 我们需要相亲相爱的家人所带来的安全感。
2)things that one does to keep a place safe 安全措施
We need better security in the factory. 我们需要加强厂区的保卫工作。
Language Point 19
…a feeling of security and trust in the loved one. (Para. 3)
trust: n. [U] feeling that sb. is honest and good 信任；信赖
Our marriage is based on trust and love. 我们的婚姻建立在信任和爱的基础上。
I put my trust in him, but he failed me. 我信任他，但他辜负了我。
A lot of business depends on trust. 许多交易都建立在信任的基础上。
Language Point 20
… to get through our problems together … (Para.3)
get through: pass or come successfully to the end 通过；设法完成
I got through a lot of work today. 我今天做了很多事。
We were all delighted when we heard you had got through your exam. 听到你通过考试时，我们都很高兴。
Language Point 21
… when the “lovers” are separated … (Para.4)
separate: v.
1) keep apart 分开，分离
We’re good friends and nothing can separate us. 我们是好朋友，什么都无法使我们分开。
2) divide up into parts 分成若干部分
The teacher separated the children into two groups. 老师把孩子们分成了两组。
Language Point 22
… feelings of doubt, uncertainty, and fear of loss often go along with infatuation. (Para.4)
go along with:
1) stay together with 共存；并行
It appears to some that freedom goes along with control. 在一些人看来自由与控制是并存的。
2) agree with; support 同意；支持
I didn’t go along with his opinions on birth control. 我不同意他对计划生育的看法。
They were quite happy to go along with our suggestion. 他们很乐意支持我们的建议。
Language Point 23
In such a situation, a love that will last forever does not have a chance to develop. (Para.4)
in such a situation: in such a case 在这种情况下
In such a situation, we had to walk all the way home. 在这种情况下，我们只能一路走回家去。
Language Point 24
…a love that will last forever does not have a chance to develop. (Para. 4)
forever: ad. lasting for all future time 永远
The mother felt she had said goodbye to her son forever. 母亲觉得她是同儿子永别了。
Language Point 25
… because a lasting feeling of relationship probably has not developed, so that each person is still thinking mainly about his or her own needs and satisfaction. (Para.5)
relationship: n. [C;U] relation 关系
The relationship between the army and the people is as close as fish to water. 军民关系如鱼水情。
Language Point 26
… because a lasting feeling of relationship probably has not developed, so that each person is still thinking mainly about his or her own needs and satisfaction. (Para.5)
so that: as a result 以至于，结果
Everyone in the family was careful and loving, so that the child grew up into a healthy and happy young man. 家中的每个人都细心体贴，这孩子也就成长为一个健康快乐的年轻人。
The professor explained every point clearly, so that we learned the lesson very well. 教授对每一点都解释得很清楚，因此我们这一课学得很好。
Language Point 27
…each person is still thinking mainly about his or her own needs and satisfaction. (Para.5)
satisfaction: n. [C; U] a feeling of happiness or pleasure 满意
Being with children is one of the greatest satisfactions of this job. 能和孩子们在一起是这项工作最令人满意的一个方面。
Language Point 28
… one is devoted to making the other person happy … (Para.5)
devote: v. give completely to 奉献
We should devote more time to this plan. 我们应在这个方案上多花点时间。
be devoted to: be completely given to 致力于
He was devoted to his research. 他致力于他的研究工作。
Language Point 29
… but a surface attraction is less important in true love. (Para.6)
Meaning: … but the other person’s beauty in appearance is less important in true love.
surface: n.
1) [C; U] outside look 外表
He seems rather cold on the surface. 他外表相当冷漠。
2) [C] the outer part of sth. 表面
This table has a smooth surface. 这张桌子表面很光滑。
Language Point 30
The couple in true love will usually build their relationship on a broader base than just being drawn to a pretty face. (Para.6)
Meaning: The couple in true love will usually develop their relationship according to what they know about each other rather than how beautiful the loved one looks.
broad: a.
1) covering a large area 广大的；广泛的
He has a broad knowledge of information science. 他对信息科学了解得很多。
At the meeting he presented a broad description of China’s future situation in industry. 会上他对中国未来的工业形势作了广泛的描述。
2) wide；large 宽阔的
This man has long legs and broad shoulders. 这个人腿长肩宽。
Language Point 31
…just being drawn to a pretty face. (Para.6)
be drawn to: be attracted by 被吸引
When he was young, he was drawn to natural wonders. 早在年少时期，他就深深被大自然的奇观吸引住了。
Language Point 32
…a pretty face. (Para.6)
pretty: a. beautiful 漂亮的
She looks pretty with long hair. 她留长发看起来很漂亮。
ad. quite; very 很，相当
It’s pretty cold today. 今天相当冷。
The organization of this article is pretty strict. 这篇文章的结构相当严谨。
Language Point 33
Although true love is an ideal toward which a couple climbs, you do not have to be perfect to love. (Para.7)
Meaning: Although true love is something perfect that you want to achieve, you don’t have to be perfect in order to love another person.
climb: v. go up (towards the top) 爬，攀登
With difficulty the old lady climbed the mountain. 老太太吃力地爬上山去。
Language Point 34
True love involves a measure of belief in yourself and a degree of self-respect … (Para.7)
Meaning: True love involves having confidence in yourself and respect for yourself …
measure: n. [C] degree 程度
He won a great measure of support across the country. 他在全国上下赢得大量支持。
v. find the size, amount, etc. 量
He measured the height of the fence. 他量了一下篱笆的高度。
Language Point 35
… but it does not require unachievable levels of these qualities. (Para.7)
require: v. need; demand 需要；要求
Everyone is required to provide an annual report. 每个人都必须提供一份年度报告。
Language Point 36
…unachievable levels of these qualities. (Para.7)
quality: n.
1) [C] something special of a person or a thing 品质；特性
Being exact and perfect are his best qualities. 追求完美是他的最大优点。
2) [U] the state of being good 质量
The quality of the work has improved a lot. 工作的质量有了很大的提高。
Quality, not quantity (数量), is most important here. 在这里质量是最重要的，而不是数量。
