Language Point 1
Research shows we make up our minds about people through unspoken communication within seven seconds of meeting them. (Para. 1)
Meaning: "Research shows within the first seven seconds when we meet someone, we form our opinion about him or her through nonverbal communication."
make up our minds about people: "form our opinions about people". The phrase "make up one's mind" also means "decide". For example,
I haven't made up my mind where to go yet. 我还没决定去哪儿。
At the age of 8 she made up her mind to become a doctor. 她8岁时就打定主意要成为一名医生。
Language Point 2
Consciously or unconsciously, we show our true feelings with our eyes, faces, bodies and attitudes, causing a chain of reactions, ranging from comfort to fear. (Para. 1)
Meaning: "Whether we are aware of, or unaware of it, we use our eyes, faces, bodies and attitudes to express our feelings. This causes a sequence of various reactions from comfort to fear."
Language Point 3
Consciously or unconsciously,...(Para. 1)
consciously: ad. in a way you are aware of it
conscious: a. realizing something; or fully awake; knowing what is happening around
The children were conscious of their mother's unhappiness. 孩子们意识到自己母亲的不快。
He was badly hurt, but he remained conscious. 他伤得很重，但仍未失去知觉。
Language Point 4
...we show our true feelings with our eyes, faces, bodies and attitudes, ...(Para. 1)
attitude: a position of the body; the way one thinks and feels about something or someone
What is your attitude to her work? 你对她的工作是什么态度？
Language Point 5
...causing a chain of reactions...(Para. 1)
The phrase "causing a chain of reactions, ranging from comfort to fear." is an adverbial of result, used to describe the result of "show our true feelings..."
"a chain of something" means a sequence of them happening one after another, for example,
a chain of events 一系列事件
a chain of accidents 一系列的意外事故
a chain of thoughts 一连串的想法
a chain of bad luck 一连串倒霉的事情
Language Point 6
...ranging from comfort to fear. (Para. 1)
The expression "ranging from comfort to fear" means reactions that include both of the opposites 'comfort' and 'fear' and anything in between.
range from: occur between certain limits or "to put things in rows; order in a line or lines". For example,
There are 80 students whose ages ranged from 20 to 40. 80位学生年龄从20岁到40岁不等。
Prices range from $10 to $25. 价格从10美元到25美元不等。
range: v. put things in rows; order in a line or lines
He had ranged the bottles from small to large in rows against the wall. 他把瓶子从小到大靠墙排成几排。
range: n. a choice; a variety; or the distance over which an object can be sent or thrown; the distance over which a sound can be heard, etc.
They can take part in a wide range of free time activities. 他们能够参加各种各样的业余活动。
We are within range of their guns. 我们正处于他们炮火的射程之内。
Language Point 7
...an introduction to your future spouse...(Para. 2)
Please notice that introduction is often followed by "to".
get an introduction to a well-known professor 介绍给一位著名的教授
give me an introduction to 把我介绍给......
Language Point 8
... a job interview...(Para. 2)
a job interview 求职面试
a personal interview 面谈
a press interview 记者采访
a telephone interview电话采访
Language Point 9
...an encounter with a stranger... (Para. 2)
encounter: n. a meeting with someone that happens by chance
My meeting with my friend in New York was not an expected encounter. 在纽约遇到我的朋友是出乎意料的。
An encounter between you and the man you have hurt will not serve any good purpose. 与那位被你弄伤的人碰面是不会有什么好处的。
encounter: vt. meet or have to deal with (sth. bad, esp. a danger or difficulty)
The President was unwilling to encounter his judges. 总统不愿与法官们遭遇。
Even if he encounters a tiger his thinking ability usually enables him to kill the animal successfully. 即使他遭遇一只老虎，他的智力通常也能使他成功地把它杀死。
Language Point 10
Focus on the first seven seconds. What did you think and feel? How did you "read" the other person? (Para. 2)
Meaning: Pay special attention to the first seven seconds. What did you feel and think? How did you understand the information about the other person?
focus on: pay attention to; have as its main point of interest
We must focus on our sales force as the chief means of improving trade. 作为促进贸易的主要手段，我们必须加强我们的销售队伍。
This year our meeting focuses on the question of children's rights. 今年我们的会议集中讨论儿童权益的问题。
Language Point 11
You are the message. (Para. 3)
Meaning: "Your eyes, face, body, and attitudes - the whole you sends the information about you to others."
Language Point 12
I've helped them make persuasive presentations, ...(Para. 3)
make a presentation: give a speech on sth.
make an appealing presentatiion of the matter 对此作出吸引人的展示
make a complete presentation of the present status of human knowledge of the science 对人类当前对这门科学所了解的现状作了完整的陈述
Language Point 13
The secret has always been you are the message. (Para. 3)
Meaning: The best way has always been you yourself give off the information about you to others. When we say that a way of behaving is the secret (of achieving something,) we mean it is the best way or the only way to achieve it.
Language Point 14
You were committed to what you were talking about and so absorbed in the moment you lost all self-consciousness. (Para. 5)
Meaning: You were giving all your attention to what you were saying and you were so interested in it that you lost all your worries and embarrassments about what you looked like, how you behaved and what others thought of you.
Language Point 15
You were committed to what you were talking about...(Para. 5)
be committed to: spend one's time, attention or energy on sth.
He is very committed to the cause of language teaching. 他对于语言教学事业十分投入。
If you want to become an actor, you really have to commit yourself to it. 要是你想成为一名演员，就得全身心地投入。
Language Point 16
...and so absorbed in the moment you lost all self-consciousness. (Para. 5)
be absorbed (in): give all one's attention (to) sth.
The artist was so absorbed in her work that she didn't hear her visitor enter the room. 这位艺术家聚精会神于自己的工作，以至于没有听到来访者进了房间。
Time passes quickly when you are absorbed in reading a good book. 当你全神贯注阅读一本好书时，时间会过得很快。
The structure "so + adj. /adv. +(that)" is used to express "to such a degree as to produce a particular result, causing a particular situation, etc. For example,
He was so ill (that) we had to send for a doctor. 他病得很重，我们得派人去请医生。
Language Point 17
Many how-to books advise you to stride into a room and impress others with your qualities. (Para. 6)
Meaning: "Many books that offer advice on how to make a good impression tell you to walk into a room with quick, long steps and make others feel admiration and respect for your good qualities."
How-to books are books offering advice.
impress sb. with sth.: feel admiration and respect for sth.
She's always trying to impress people with her new clothes. 她总是试图用穿新衣给人留下印象。
The same sentence can be rewritten with "make an impression":
She's always trying to make an impression on people with her new clothes. 她总是试图用穿新衣给人留下印象。
Language Point 18
... and tell you to fix your eyes on the other persons. (Para. 6)
fix one's eyes on: keep one's eyes on
All the people fixed their eyes on me, which made me feel very embarrassed. 所有的人都把目光盯着我，使我很尴尬。
Language Point 19
If you follow all this advice, you'll drive everyone crazy － including yourself. (Para. 6)
Meaning: If you act in the way the how-to books tell you, you'll make everyone upset or annoyed, and make yourself upset and annoyed too.
If you say someone or something drives or makes you or sb. crazy, you mean they make you or sb. severely annoyed or upset.
The endless music is driving me crazy. 这没完没了的音乐弄得我受不了。
Language Point 20
The trick is to be consistently you, at your best. (Para. 7)
Meaning: The skilled way is that you always have your same behavior, attitude and good qualities all the time and perform as well as you are able to.
The adjective form of "consistently" is "consistent", meaning "always having the same opinions, standard, behaviour, attitudes, qualities," etc.
He was consistent in his attitude. 他的态度是前后一致的。
The second statement is not consistent with the first one. 第二份声明与第一份声明不一致。
at one's best: performing as well or effectively as one is able to
He was never at his best early in the morning. 他清晨从来不在最佳状态。
At her best, she's a really first-class dancer. 在最佳状态时，她真是一位一流的舞蹈家。
Language Point 21
The most effective people never change from one situation to another. They're the same whether they're having a conversation, addressing their garden club or being interviewed for a job. They communicate with their whole being; the tones of their voices and their gestures match their words. (Para. 7)
Meaning: The most effective people remain consistent in all situations. They act in the same way whether they're talking with others, or they're giving a speech to others in their garden club, or they're being interviewed for a job. They communicate not only with their speech but also with their eyes, faces, bodies and attitudes; the tones of their voices and their gestures are consistent with their words.
Language Point 22
...addressing their garden club...(Para. 7)
address: vt. direct one's speech to
The President addressed the Congress to review the past year and announced plans for the next. 总统向国会讲话总结了过去一年的情况，宣布了今年的计划。
The Education secretary had to address a crowd of teachers who were negative about the new changes in education. 教育大臣不得不向一群反对教育领域新变化的教师讲话作解释。
Language Point 23
They communicate with their whole being...(Para. 7)
communicate with: talk with others through means of
Deaf people communicate with sign language. 聋哑人通过手语与人交流。
communicate with: share or exchange opinions, feelings or information, etc.
You can communicate in the quickest possible way with people in many countries by email. 你可用电子邮件以最快的方式同许多国家的人进行交流。
Language Point 24
Public speakers, however, often send mixed messages. (Para. 8)
Meaning: Public speakers, however, often send confused messages that is, what they say does not agree with what they do.
The word "speakers" means persons who make a speech to a group of people.
Tonight's speaker is a well-known artist. 今天的演讲者是一位著名艺术家。
Language Point 25
My favorite is the kind who say... (Para. 8)
Meaning: The public speakers I like best to use as an example of their sending mixed messages are the speakers who say...
Language Point 26
The audience always believe what they see over what they hear. (Para. 9)
Meaning: The audience always think what they see with their own eyes is more important than what they hear, that is, seeing is believing.
The word "audience" means a group of people who watch or listen to a play, concert, speech, the television, etc. For example,
The audience was /were wild with joy. 观众欣喜若狂。
Language Point 27
He's not being honest. (Para. 9)
Meaning: "He is, for the present time, not saying something honest. He is lying."
"Be" is not usually used as the main verb in progressive tenses. However, you can use it in progressive tenses to describe someone's behavior at a particular time as in the sentence. Here some more examples:
You're being very silly. (= You're doing silly things.) 你做得傻极了。
I was being very careful. (= I was doing something carefully.) 我是特别小心。
He is being nice to me. 他对我显得特别好。
Language Point 28
Some people start to say something while looking right at you, but three words into the sentence, they break eye contact and look out the window. (Para. 10)
Meaning: Some people look at you only when they begin to say something, but very soon they begin to look somewhere else.
Language Point 29
Smiling is important. It shows you are relaxed. (Para. 11)
Meaning: "Smiling is important. It shows you feel calm or not worried."
relaxed: a. become less worried or tense
You'll feel relaxed after you take a hot bath. 洗个热水澡后你会感到浑身轻松。
Language Point 30
I disagree. If I did agree, I certainly wouldn't look at my feet or at the ceiling. I'd keep my eye on the lion! (Para. 11)
Meaning: I don't agree that entering a room full of people is like going into a lion's cage. Suppose I agreed with such a thought, I would not look at my feet or at the ceiling but look carefully at the lion to make sure it would not kill me because the lion was most dangerous.
Notice the emphatic use of "did" in "If I did agree...". Here are some more examples of the use of "did" for added stress.
He did tell me about it. 他的确告诉了我这事儿。
In the present tense, "do" or "does" is used:
I do feel sorry for him. 我确实为他感到遗憾。
A little knowledge does seem to be a dangerous thing. 看来一知半解确实是件危险的事。
Also in the sentence, please note the use of the "if clause" to talk about unreal situations. For example,
If he started it now, he would not finish it in time. 就算他现在开始做,也不可能按时完成这项工作了。
If you had asked, I would have told you. 如果你当时问了，我会告诉你的。
Language Point 31
...scolded each worker and enjoyed making them fear me. (Para. 12)
Enjoy can't be used without an object. When we talk about having fun, having a nice time in general, we can either say enjoy doing something or enjoy oneself.
I don't enjoy traveling very much. 我不太喜欢旅游。
Well, have a good holiday. Enjoy yourself, and don't do anything that you wouldn't do. 好，祝你假日愉快 ! 玩个痛快，不要做任何你不愿做的事。
Language Point 32
