It is, of course, un-American to think in terms of false goals.
We do, however, seem to be dedicated to the idea of buying our way to happiness.
We shall all have made it to Heaven when we possess enough.
Look at any of the magazines that cater to women.
There advertising begins as art and slogans in the front pages and ends as pills and therapy in the back pages. The art at the front illustrates the dream of perfect beauty. This is the baby skin that must be hers. This, the perfumed breath she must breathe out.
This, the sixteen-year-old figure she must display at forty, at fifty, at sixty, and forever.
This is the harness into which Mother must strap herself in order to display that perfect figure.
This is the cream that restores skin, these are the tablets that melt away fat around the thighs, and these are the pills of perpetual youth.
Defining the meaning of "happiness" is a perplexing proposition: the best one can do is to try to set some extremes to the idea and then work towards the middle.
To think of happiness as achieving superiority over others, living in a mansion made of marble, having a wardrobe with hundreds of outfits, will do to set the greedy extreme.
To think of happiness as the joy of a holy man of India will do to set the spiritual extreme.
He sits completely still, contemplating the nature of reality, free even of his own body. If admirers bring him food, he eats it; if not, he starves. Why be concerned?
What is physical is trivial to him.
To contemplate is his joy and he achieves complete mental focus through an incredibly demanding discipline, the accomplishment of which is itself a joy to him.
Although the holy man's concept of happiness may enjoy considerable prestige in the Orient, I doubt the existence of such motionless happiness.
What is certain is that his way of happiness would be torture to almost anyone of Western temperament.
Yet these extremes will still serve to define the area within which all of us must find some sort of balance.
Thoreau had his own firm sense of that balance: save on the petty in order to spend on the essential.
Effort is the essence of it: there is no happiness except as we take on challenges.
Short of the impossible, the satisfactions we get from a lifetime depend on how high we place our difficulties.
The mortal flaw in the advertised version of happiness is in the fact that it claims to be effortless.
Those in advertising seem too often to have lost their sense of the pleasure of difficulty. And the Indian holy man seems dull to us, I suppose, because he seems to be refusing to play anything at all.
The Western weakness may be in the illusion that happiness can be bought.
Perhaps the oriental weakness is in the idea that there is such a thing as perfect happiness.
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